Talking to Yourself Again.........?
Really???
Are you talking to yourself again. Some people might say that if you talk to yourself that you are crazy. Some other folks say it is OK to talk to yourself, but if you answer yourself, than there is a problem. The truth is that we talk to ourselves all day long. Almost every minute of every day, including when we are sleeping, we are talking to ourselves. The clincher is.......we don't realize the significance of what we say to ourselves and our happiness.
Let me explain.
Events during the day bring about emotion.
It's bad weather.........disappointed
We lose a wallet.........we are fearful
Traffic jam...................irritation
There is a gap between the event........and the emotion. Let's call it dot, dot, dot. Well, during dot, dot, dot, we have a choice. We have a choice in HOW we interpret the event, which leads to a direct effect on our emotion. In other words, we interpret the events of our day, all day long. So essentially, the dot, dot, dot gives pause to what we choose to think. There is time to interpret each event during differently, thereby causing us to feel differently.
The New Perspective
Events during the day bring about emotion.
It's bad weather..........interpretation.........we feel disappointed or we could feel comforted.
One person might notice the bad weather and think about the traffic and the discomfort of being wet during travel. Their emotion will be disappointment. Another person might think about the rain as a necessary balance to the dry weather and also think about the comfort of staying indoors and catching up on necessary busy work.
You see, it isn't the event that causes our emotion........it is the dot, dot, dot! It is our interpretation of the event that is responsible for emotion.
The dot, dot, dot......or our interpretation is the self-talk that we do all day long, without even realizing it.
So, pay attention to your dots. What are they interpreting about your day?
Adapted from Dan Joseph Self-Talk
Are you talking to yourself again. Some people might say that if you talk to yourself that you are crazy. Some other folks say it is OK to talk to yourself, but if you answer yourself, than there is a problem. The truth is that we talk to ourselves all day long. Almost every minute of every day, including when we are sleeping, we are talking to ourselves. The clincher is.......we don't realize the significance of what we say to ourselves and our happiness.
Let me explain.
Events during the day bring about emotion.
It's bad weather.........disappointed
We lose a wallet.........we are fearful
Traffic jam...................irritation
There is a gap between the event........and the emotion. Let's call it dot, dot, dot. Well, during dot, dot, dot, we have a choice. We have a choice in HOW we interpret the event, which leads to a direct effect on our emotion. In other words, we interpret the events of our day, all day long. So essentially, the dot, dot, dot gives pause to what we choose to think. There is time to interpret each event during differently, thereby causing us to feel differently.
The New Perspective
Events during the day bring about emotion.
It's bad weather..........interpretation.........we feel disappointed or we could feel comforted.
One person might notice the bad weather and think about the traffic and the discomfort of being wet during travel. Their emotion will be disappointment. Another person might think about the rain as a necessary balance to the dry weather and also think about the comfort of staying indoors and catching up on necessary busy work.
You see, it isn't the event that causes our emotion........it is the dot, dot, dot! It is our interpretation of the event that is responsible for emotion.
The dot, dot, dot......or our interpretation is the self-talk that we do all day long, without even realizing it.
So, pay attention to your dots. What are they interpreting about your day?
Adapted from Dan Joseph Self-Talk
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